Modern society and teenage pregnancy
We live in a day and time where teenage pregnancy is looked at much differently than it used to be. As recently as the 1950’s, girls as young as 14 were marrying men as old as 50 and 60. I know it seems gross and down-right wrong now, but it used to be the norm.
Young women would marry at 14-16 and have 3 or 4 kids by the time they were 21. Look at the movies that hollywood was producing back then, how common was it for “Mr.Smith” to ride into town on his horse on monday and leave on friday with a new young wife in tow? Literally, grown men would have some sort of business to conduct in town, hang out in the local tavern, notice some young 14-16 girl running errands or working or whatever, and make his move.
Now a days, teenage pregnancy movies are much different. Young ladies are being vilified for doing the exact same thing that their grandmother did. One movie stand out to me. It’s called Quinceanera, and basically, a young girl is treated like shit because she fell in love and got pregnant. Teenagers are already highly impressionable, and when we consistantly tell them that they are failures, they will eventually start believing it.
With so much emphasis on the negative effects of teenage pregnancy, is it any surprise that so many teenage parents seem to fall within the negative categories that we subconciesly put them in? When we tell a young man that when he becomes a teenage father, he most likely wont stay in a relationship with his childs mother, he almost expects the relationship to end. When we tell him that he’s more likely to go to prison instead of graduate college, he internalizes that and then creates it in his life.
What if we went the opposite end of the spectrum and started speaking and teaching about the positive effects of teenage pregnancy? A lot teenage parents are forced into situations where… well… let’s just say pressure can burst pipes and it can also make diamonds. The extenuating circumstances that come along with being a teenage parent has created some of the most successful people in the world.
Are we to blame modern society as a whole or certain groups of individuals for the negative light we’ve come to view teen parents in? That answer I do not know.
While doing some research, I did come across an interesting website about being a teenage parent. It’s called iteeniparent.com and it is written by a teenage parent who goes by A.Kirshawn.